What Successful People Do That Is Different

 Consider the world's great leaders. Abraham Lincoln, Gandhi, Napoleon, Thomas Jefferson, Winston Churchill, George Patton, Franklin Roosevelt, Teddi Roosevelt.

Great Leaders Help Do Great Things

How much time, and delay of their activities do you suppose they gave to the "lessor" people who did nothing but second guess or question their motives? I can assure you that those Germans didn't discount Patton, as a "loud, gun toting American" and if they had, they would have been wrong, because his "push" was the undoing of Germany in World War II.

Teddi Roosevelt, when he recruited soldiers for his Rough Riders, was colorful, outrageous and had strong opinions. He was criticized because he wore a big hat, cowboy boots, was a "Yankee" and talked big ideas. He had vision with a foundation of intellect and his vision brought victory in war and eventually the Presidency.

When Franklin Roosevelt saw that the USA was mired in economic crisis and depression, he moved to instill confidence and provided leadership to rebuild and move to progress. Roosevelt didn't stop with all the "naysayers" who angrily said that he was"full of &^%$";. Indeed when his opponents attacked him and tried to bring him down he said: "They hate me for trying to bring positive change and progress. I welcome their hate!"

He turned the energy of "hate" into power and support for his concepts that brought the United States from crisis to economic recovery.

When people cannot find a way to deal with logic or solid goals, they often resort to attacking the individual. It is an act of desperation, but people like Roosevelt took those "cheap shots" and used them to give power to his initiatives. Little people try to destroy the person. It is a diversionary tactic , if you can't destroy the message, then make it personal and try to discredit the messenger.

Mandela was imprisoned, but his leadership prevailed!

Nelson Mandela was thrown in prison for years, yet his ideas prevailed.

Again and again, good ideas work like magnets, and the people follow.

When Thomas Jefferson had the vision to "Separate Church and State" he ran into the rage of religious leaders who used their pulpits to try to discredit him. 300 years later, some of those people are still trying to discredit Jefferson. But Jefferson had such intellect and persistence, he simply exposed their logic, he put light on their 'control and intolerant agendas" and kept pushing forward. His ideas, based upon a foundation of integrity and truth, continue to impact the United States in a positive way.

Gandhi was hated by the British, and they tried everything to stop him, but in spite of his "different" style, dress and manners, his logic and good heart led India out of British control. Gandhi had faith, that if the people were given "Ideas" that the people would "get it" and move from lethargy or fear to gain control of their destiny. Gandhi was imprisoned several times, in Britain's attempts to discredit and destroy him. But, his ideas were stronger than prison walls.

Great leaders not only are motivated, they rise early full of ideas and energy, they are positive thinkers, because they can see the "end goal". Their positive thinking is also tempered by consideration of the "negatives", the pitfalls along the way.

But instead of being afraid of those pitfalls, they simply find ways to avoid the pot holes, or overcome them.

Non achievers become paralyzed by criticism and fear. Then there are always those who find social identity in criticizing and tearing down every voice of progress. Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple Computer, once asked a person who was critical of him: "What have you ever created? When have you ever founded a company? What have you ever built into something in your life?" And it is true. Usually those "little minds" who want to tear down something or someone, have never built or created much.Leaders aren't stopped by those cultural tar pits. Rather, they simply progress beyond them and focus on people of intellectual integrity who see the promise of progress and the benefits of mutual achievement. 98% of the people are followers, 1% are leaders who push, pull, cajole, inspire, and make for progress. Another 1% are "wall builders", for reasons of personal ego, control, fear, or greed, they simply can't stand progress.

Robert Schuller, the great evangelist and builder once told me that when he was faced with a wall in life that he would go around it, or over it, and if necessary dig under it, but he would not be stopped. "I will not quit" is his mantra. Winston Churchill said it better in his one line graduation commencement speech. A speech of three words.

"Never Give Up".

As good as ideas are, persistence, is necessary. That is what successful leaders do. They never give up when they have good ideas.

I noticed Heidi Grant Halvorson's article and thought she had some excellent points.

Nine Things Successful People Do Differently

8:58 AM Friday February 25, 2011 by Heidi Grant Halvorson -Harvard Business Review

1.Get specific. When you set yourself a goal, try to be as specific as possible. "Lose 5 pounds" is a better goal than "lose some weight," because it gives you a clear idea of what success looks like. Knowing exactly what you want to achieve keeps you motivated until you get there. Also, think about the specific actions that need to be taken to reach your goal. Just promising you'll "eat less" or "sleep more" is too vague — be clear and precise. "I'll be in bed by 10pm on weeknights" leaves no room for doubt about what you need to do, and whether or not you've actually done it.

2. Seize the moment to act on your goals. Given how busy most of us are, and how many goals we are juggling at once, it's not surprising that we routinely miss opportunities to act on a goal because we simply fail to notice them. Did you really have no time to work out today? No chance at any point to return that phone call? Achieving your goal means grabbing hold of these opportunities before they slip through your fingers.

To seize the moment,decide when and where you will take each action you want to take, in advance. Again, be as specific as possible (e.g., "If it's Monday, Wednesday, or Friday, I'll work out for 30 minutes before work.") Studies show that this kind of planning will help your brain to detect and seize the opportunity when it arises, increasing your chances of success by roughly 300%.

3. Know exactly how far you have left to go. Achieving any goal also requires honest and regular monitoring of your progress — if not by others, then by you yourself. If you don't know how well you are doing, you can't adjust your behavior or your strategies accordingly. Check your progress frequently — weekly, or even daily, depending on the goal.

4. Be a realistic optimist. When you are setting a goal, by all means engage in lots of positive thinking about how likely you are to achieve it. Believing in your ability to succeed is enormously helpful for creating and sustaining your motivation. But whatever you do, don't underestimate how difficult it will be to reach your goal. Most goals worth achieving require time, planning, effort, and persistence. Studies show that thinking things will come to you easily and effortlessly leaves you ill-prepared for the journey ahead, and significantly increases the odds of failure.

5. Focus on getting better, rather than being good. Believing you have the ability to reach your goals is important, but so is believing you cangetthe ability. Many of us believe that our intelligence, our personality, and our physical aptitudes are fixed — that no matter what we do, we won't improve. As a result, we focus on goals that are all about proving ourselves, rather than developing and acquiring new skills.

Fortunately, decades of research suggest that the belief in fixed ability is completely wrong — abilities of all kinds are profoundly malleable. Embracing the fact that you can change will allow you to make better choices, and reach your fullest potential. People whose goals are about getting better, rather than being good, take difficulty in stride, and appreciate the journey as much as the destination.

6. Have grit. Grit is a willingness to commit to long-term goals, and to persist in the face of difficulty. Studies show that gritty people obtain more education in their lifetime, and earn higher college GPAs. Grit predicts which cadets will stick out their first grueling year at West Point. In fact, grit even predicts which round contestants will make it to at the Scripps National Spelling Bee.

The good news is, if you aren't particularly gritty now, there is something you can do about it. People who lack grit more often than not believe that they just don't have the innate abilities successful people have. If that describes your own thinking .... well, there's no way to put this nicely: you are wrong. As I mentioned earlier, effort, planning, persistence, and good strategies are what it really takes to succeed. Embracing this knowledge will not only help you see yourself and your goals more accurately, but also do wonders for your grit.

7. Build your willpower muscle. Your self-control "muscle" is just like the other muscles in your body — when it doesn't get much exercise, it becomes weaker over time. But when you give it regular workouts by putting it to good use, it will grow stronger and stronger, and better able to help you successfully reach your goals.

To build willpower, take on a challenge that requires you to do something you'd honestly rather not do. Give up high-fat snacks, do 100 sit-ups a day, stand up straight when you catch yourself slouching, try to learn a new skill. When you find yourself wanting to give in, give up, or just not bother — don't. Start with just one activity, and make a plan for how you will deal with troubles when they occur ("If I have a craving for a snack, I will eat one piece of fresh or three pieces of dried fruit.") It will be hard in the beginning, but it will get easier, and that's the whole point. As your strength grows, you can take on more challenges and step-up your self-control workout.

8. Don't tempt fate. No matter how strong your willpower muscle becomes, it's important to always respect the fact that it is limited, and if you overtax it you will temporarily run out of steam. Don't try to take on two challenging tasks at once, if you can help it (like quitting smoking and dieting at the same time). And don't put yourself in harm's way — many people are overly-confident in their ability to resist temptation, and as a result they put themselves in situations where temptations abound. Successful people know not to make reaching a goal harder than it already is.

9. Focus on what you will do,not what you won't do. Do you want to successfully lose weight, quit smoking, or put a lid on your bad temper? Then plan how you will replace bad habits with good ones, rather than focusing only on the bad habits themselves. Research on thought suppression (e.g., "Don't think about white bears!") has shown that trying to avoid a thought makes it even more active in your mind. The same holds true when it comes to behavior — by trying not to engage in a bad habit, our habits get strengthened rather than broken.If you want change your ways, ask yourself, What will I do instead? For example, if you are trying to gain control of your temper and stop flying off the handle, you might make a plan like "If I am starting to feel angry, then I will take three deep breaths to calm down." By using deep breathing as a replacement for giving in to your anger, your bad habit will get worn away over time until it disappears completely.

It is my hope that, after reading about the nine things successful people do differently, you have gained some insight into all the things you have been doing right all along. Even more important, I hope are able to identify the mistakes that have derailed you, and use that knowledge to your advantage from now on. Remember, you don't need to become a different person to become a more successful one. It's never what you are, but what you do.

Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. is a motivational psychologist, and author of the new bookSucceed: How We Can Reach Our Goals(Hudson Street Press, 2011). She is also an expert blogger on motivation and leadership for Fast Company and Psychology Today.